Step 1: Communication
Communication is the foundation of every relationship. It is crucial to define the boundaries of your relationship. Monogamy, polyamory, and open relational dynamics are as unique as each person involved. Do not assume that your partner aligns with what you believe to be true. Be curious and spend time reflecting on what you would consider a boundary violation or cheating. Also, acknowledge what expectations you have for each other. Do you expect daily phone calls? Do you expect cybersex? Be transparent and honest. Unspoken expectations can be relationship killers.
Step 2: Get Creative with Connection
Being long distance does not mean you lose connection. Being apart can create longing, which can increase desire and connection with your partner. With so many platforms available, allow yourselves to be playful and experiment with what feels good for both of you. Send each other memes or funny videos through social media, use FaceTime or Zoom to connect and be intimate, and talk on the phone. You don’t need to be monotonous with your style of communication and connection.
Step 3: Gratitude
This is the perfect time to start a gratitude practice. A gratitude practice can help remind you of what makes your relationship strong, enduring, and fun! It gives you space to recognize your own strengths, passions, and independence. Having a long-distance romantic relationship opens up space for you to reinvest in other relationships in your life, such as family, friends, and your relationship with yourself.
